The Abusive Relationship

The following is a true account of what happened to my friend. Names have been changed to protect the identity of the persons involved.


Richard, a white gay male who is in his late 40s, have been dating Simon, a Asian gay male who is in his mid-20s. During their courtship, Richard would always ask Simon over for dinner and sex. Richard is just the perfect male specimen and a dream-guy of every young man. He's a gentleman, a good cook in French and Italian cuisine, acquires a vast knowledge about wine, impeccable command of English and other foreign languages and above all, he's very good in bed and Simon admits that it was the best sex he ever had.

You may think this guy seems to good to be true and it's impossible that there is a perfect man out there like him. Well, you're right. Richard does have his flaws; he sleeps around with any guy he could get, even to the extent of going to a neighbouring country just to have fun with other guys.

When he comes back, he would boast on how great his sex adventures was to Simon without realising this hurt Simon deeply in the heart. To Richard, Simon is just one of those guys he have fun with and there isn't any feeling of love being involved and Simon knows this as a fact. In return, Simon would also tell Richard about his great ONS with a guy and that's it!

Richard was furious and upset and he thought Simon was comparing him with that guy and it makes Richard felt inferior about his sex skill but it was not Simon's intention at all to make Richard feel so. He was just doing what Richard has done all these while, by speaking out how great his sex fun with other guys. So why can't Simon do the same?

Richard said it's fine with him that Simon have fun with other guys but it's wrong of Simon to tell him about it. Don't you think Richard is being selfish and ego-maniac? Oh! So now, he is the only one who can talk about his great sex but not Simon? This is unfair! He's making such a huge issue out of it as though Simon is all wrong and he's right.

After that incident, Richard still keep talking about his fun with other guys to Simon. What's his intention? Simon couldn't take it anymore after being psychologically abused and cut off ties with him and blocked him from his MSN Messenger Chat. I'm glad that Simon has finally taken up enough courage to leave him for good but only time will heal the wound.