Dating=Lying

Why do people lie and pretend to be the best when they're dating someone? Just to impress that person so that he or she would like you in return? And what's next after you got him or her in a relationship? Without realising, you will return back to your normal self. You don't find it necessary anymore to impress your lover because he's yours already.

Let's take a comparison on a heterosexual dating couple during the dating period and after they have confirmed to be in a relationship.

Scenario 1

Dating
Girl: Do I look nice in this dress?
Man: You look fabulous. You're the prettiest.

After
Girl: Do I look nice in this dress?
Man: You still think you're young? You look the same no matter what you wear.


Scenario 2

Dating
Man: What do you want to eat?
Girl: Sushi.
Man: Ok, let's go.

After
Man: What do you want to eat?
Girl: Sushi.
Man: Don't want lah. So expensive.


Scenario 3

Dating
Man: I love you baby.
Girl: I love you too, hubby.

After
Girl: How come you don't say 'I love you' anymore to me?
Man: Eee.... so gross.


Scenario 4

Dating
Girl: We have not been going out for the whole week already.
Man: I'm sorry baby. I have been busy with work. I promise next week I'll take you out, ok?

After
Girl: We have not been going out for the whole week already.
Man: You think I got no work, is it?


Scenario 5

Dating
Girl: How's the taste? This is my first time cooking porridge.
Man: No matter what you cook, it taste sweet.

After
Girl: How's the taste? This is my first time cooking pasta.
Man: You try your own.


Why do we change our tone and way of speech after we got the other half in a stable relationship? Are we putting a mask when we go out dating the potential? Are we pretending to be someone else? Why are we hiding our true self? Why are we trying to be so polite and sweet during the dating period but all those sweet talks are gone once the relationship is stable. Why?